Everyone stresses about something and sometimes it’s hard to get through that stress. You begin by stressing about one thing and then stress about another. Soon you’re stressing about being stressed. However, stress management is possible. Managing stress is all about taking control of your thoughts, your emotions and the way you deal with problems.
Of course you need to understand the source of your stress. To truly identify the reason for your stress, you must study your habits and agendas closely. You must acknowledge that you are stressed; it doesn’t help to find the reasons if you deny the stress. It is also about owning up to the reason of your stress; don’t blame it on anyone else. You won’t be able to control your stress if you won’t take responsibility for it.
There are several techniques/strategies you can use to recognize the reason for your stress and maintain it.
Try keeping a stress journal. That may sound dumb, but by recording the reasons you become stress and then going back to them, you can try to keep from repeating that stress. Record what caused the stress, your reaction to it, what actions you may have taken and how you made yourself feel better.
Contemplate how you cope with your stress (your stress journal can help you with that). Are you coping with them in a healthy or unhealthy manner? Some unhealthy ways of dealing with stress is smoking, drinking, overeating/under eating, and using drugs.
When trying to deal with stress, think about the four points: avoid, alter, adapt, accept. Since everyone perceives stress differently, there is no single method that will work for everyone. Even these may seem like a stretch, but if you practice at least one of them with every situation you encounter, you’ll see that your stress level on those problems will slowly diminish and you’ll be able to handle them with ease.
The first strategy is to get rid of unnecessary stress. Of course not all stress can be avoided and it’s not always healthy to do so. Here are a few tips to avoid stress.
• If possible, avoid people who give you pressure, or at least limit the time you are with them.
• Try to take control of your environment. If there is an element in your area that is bothering you, try to go away from it or change your habits. If you go to one grocery store for food and something there seems to stress you out, try a different grocery store.
• Avoid hot-tempered topics. Politics and religion can really get a person going and stress them out if someone rejects their beliefs or opinion. Avoid the same argument with the same people.
• Free yourself from your busy schedule. If you find your stress comes from being too busy, try dropping tasks that aren’t necessary to the bottom of your “list”, or eliminate them entirely if they aren’t important.
If the situation is unavoidable, try altering it.
• Express your feelings in a respectful way rather than bottling up, sometimes those bottled up feelings can stress you out.
• Be willing to make a compromise. If you are both willing to change your behavior even a little bit, you’ll be able to find a good middle ground.
• Manage your time better. When you’re strained on time, it’s hard to stay calm and focused. If you plan your time wisely, you don’t overextend yourself and lessen the stress you’re in.
The next step is adapting.
• Reframe the problem. Try to view stressful situations from a more positive perspective.
• Look at the big picture. Is the situation worth getting worked up about? How long will it take to get over the situation?
• Adjust your standards. No one’s perfect. If you expect perfection and fail, you will only stress yourself out.
• Focus on what is positive. Even if the situation doesn’t really have a positive attribute, think of other things positive in your life.
• Lastly is to adjust your attitude. How you think can affect your emotional and physical well-being.
Finally, the last of the A’s, and that’s acceptance. You can’t always avoid a situation, so now it’s time to accept it. It may be difficult to accept the situation, but it’s easier than stressing and fighting against something you can’t change.
• Don’t try to control what can’t be controlled. There are many things that we can’t control, other people for instance, but rather than stressing over them, focus on what you can control in the situation.
• Look at the good side. If the situation is bad, try finding some good that could come from it.
• Share your feelings. It helps to get things off your chest and by doing so, you can relieve yourself of some of the stress.
• Learn to forgive. Once again, no one is perfect. We all make mistakes. By forgiving one, you free yourself of stressing over the problem and the person.
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Stress affects everyone, but by following the tips given, you can relieve yourself of some of that stress and go about your life without the worry.